Multi-hop question answering (MHQA) enables accurate answers to complex queries by retrieving and reasoning over evidence dispersed across multiple documents. Existing MHQA approaches mainly rely on iterative retrieval-augmented generation, which suffer from the following two major issues. On one hand, existing methods prematurely commit to surface-level entities rather than underlying reasoning structures, making question decomposition highly vulnerable to lexical ambiguity. On the other hand, existing methods overlook the logical dependencies among reasoning steps, resulting in uncoordinated execution. To address these issues, we propose STRIDE, a framework that separates strategic planning, dynamic control, and grounded execution. At its core, a Meta-Planner first constructs an entity-agnostic reasoning skeleton to capture the abstract logic of the query, thereby deferring entity grounding until after the reasoning structure is established, which mitigates disambiguation errors caused by premature lexical commitment. A Supervisor then orchestrates sub-question execution in a dependency-aware manner, enabling efficient parallelization where possible and sequential coordination when necessary. By dynamically deciding whether to retrieve new evidence or infer from existing facts, it avoids redundant queries and error propagation, while fusing cross-branch information and reformulating failed queries to enhance robustness. Grounded fact extraction and logical inference are delegated to specialized execution modules, ensuring faithfulness through explicit separation of retrieval and reasoning. While STRIDE is compatible with any large language models (LLMs), off-the-shelf open-source LLMs underperform closed-source counterparts in its structured reasoning pipeline. To close this gap, we further propose STRIDE-FT, a modular fine-tuning framework that uses self-generated execution trajectories from STRIDE, requiring neither human annotations nor stronger teacher models. Experiments show that STRIDE achieves robust and accurate reasoning on MHQA benchmarks, while STRIDE-FT effectively enhances open-source LLMs.